Nov 26, 2015

Sharing and Reposting: 14 Things No One Tells You About Being in a Long-Distance Relationship

Found this article BY  online and thought of re posting it here and sharing it. All of these are true, I can truly relate to it and I know that most of the people in LDR (Long Distance Relationship) will relate too. Kudos to the author at least now I know that I share the same sentiment with other people somewhere.

14 Things No One Tells You About Being in a Long-Distance Relationship

Boy meets girl. They go crazy over each other, knowing one of them is leaving town in less than a month (or a week, or a day!). The story never gets old.
The dreadful day approaches. They’re at the airport, time is running low. There are tears, sloppy kisses and endless promises that they will get through it no matter what! One leaves. One stays. But know this: “dating” in no way prepares you for a long-distance relationship. It is a different kind of ball game altogether.
Before moving to France to be with my partner, I spent over a year living in a limbo of visa paperwork, lonesome nights lying awake, and carefully crossing out days left until we met again.
Now, I need to put it in bold: long-distance relationships seriously suck!
Below are 14 things no one will tell you about being in a long-distance relationship, except for someone who has already done it.

1. Congrats! You’ve got a free ticket to an emotional roller-coaster ride!

Some days will be fine. You’ll just do all the usual stuff — go to work, catch up with friends for drinks, walk your dog and work out every day to look fit when you finally meet again.
But there will be terrible days too. Days when you don’t want to get out of bed or do anything meaningful — except for embracing your pain and loneliness. Days when you seriously question your decision: “Is it worth it? Why am I doing this?”
You’ll go from moments of tremendous joy together to hopelessly depressing thoughts on the night before your departure: “Will I survive another separation? I’m not sure how many more times my heart can be torn apart until it finally breaks!”

2. There will be a lot of tough choices to make

So where are we heading? How do we see our future together? Should I leave everything and move to you? Is it worth it? Who will come and visit? When?
Get used to the endless swirl of complicated questions you both need to answer honestly.

3. Your laptop is your real significant other

At least for now.
You will fall asleep with your beloved’s face on the screen. The first thing you’ll grab in the morning is your laptop to check if they’ve already sent you a sweet “Morning, sunshine!” email. You’ll put your laptop next to your plate so you can have dinner together.
You’ll also get to know all the latest video, chat and photo exchange apps, all designed for couples who are apart.

4. Time will be your main enemy

When you are together, you’ll savor each and every moment. You’ll plan to do all those amazing super-romantic couple things, or simply enjoy the warmth of actual hugs as long as possible. Yet, you will never get enough time.
But once apart again, you’ll simply wish the clock ran faster: “Is it Friday already? So, there’s just 24 days left until I visit. Can I please wake up on day X?”

5. You will get more creative trying to fill up your time

Always wanted to learn French? How about play tennis, enroll in a Japanese cooking class, or master ink drawing? This is a high time to find new hobbies and try new things. Keep your mind engaged and let it focus on learning new skills. Besides, isn’t it an awesome way to impress your partner when you finally catch up again?

6. There will be all sort of memory triggers that will cause you to randomly cry

I thought I was emotionally strong. I was proved wrong. Numerous times.

7. It won’t get easier in time

Even if you think you can get used to being apart and are now stoically waiting for when things get easier, they won’t. No matter how long you are in a long-distance relationship, you always miss your significant other like crazy.
Revisit points #1 and #6 and accept that.

8. You learn to live in a twisted reality

They’re never there, but they’re all yours. You spend too much time inside your head replaying all those sweet moments spent together, having all those daydreams and conversations.
That’s odd. I know.

9. Your friends won’t be as supportive as you expect

“OMG! So you’re like one year into a long-distance relationship? How do you cope with, you know … desire?”
“Does your boyfriend even exist?”
“Why don’t you find someone else to date?”
Why can’t a cat become a dog?

10. Long distance feels heavy

Your partner won’t be around every time you desperately need them, not on one of those “bad days” when you are one step away from a yet another mental breakdown. Not on those days when you fail and need more support that any sweet words on Skype can convey. Eventually, you learn to cope with a lot of things on your own, and you grow stronger and more mature in the process.

11. Finding the time to visit is complicated

You won’t be able to come and visit each and every weekend or month as you originally intended to. You still have different and conflicting commitments holding you back. (Or else you’d be sitting next to each other already, right?) And unless booked months in advance flights cost a pretty penny and get insanely expensive during holidays and vacation seasons. Exactly, those times when you are most likely to be able to visit.

12. When you finally meet again, you just pick up just where you’ve finished

When you are together again, it seems like those ugly weeks apart never existed. Like you finally pressed “Play” and started living your perfect life again. At least until it’s time to go back home.

13. Eventually, you develop this odd feeling of sureness

You will begin to consider that if you are not soul mates, why would both of you bother so much? Your relationship are definitely not about sex. Rather, you are like friends without benefits most of the time. You can talk over anything — hopes, fears, dreams, insecurities. Jealousy is just an empty word as you grow absolutely confident in your partner and yourself.

14. You know if you both see this through to the end, your relationship will survive anything

As a couple you will develop this invisible, bulletproof bond. It will carry you through all sort of arguments and life difficulties. After all, if you survive the long-distance thing, everything else from then on will seem easily manageable!

Jun 13, 2013


"We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone."
Ronald Reagan 

EMY VELOSO CORPUS, an outdoor enthusiast and a friend of members of BAC was recently diagnosed with Stage 2 Breast Cancer.  Upon learning about this misfortune, Toots called the attention of all the members for help. Thus, after exchanging of mails and messages,  the BAC organized the climb for a cause to raise fund and to help Emy with her battle against cancer.  The letter containing the information was disseminated to all contacts, friends and outdoor enthusiast in Singapore through email, social media and word of mouth. In just as short as 2 weeks, the response was fast and overwhelming.  

Emy's first chemo session

June 1-2, 2013 Gunung Panti,  Malaysia situated just a few kilometers North of Kota Tinggi in Johor - The recreational forest is accessible by any mode of transportation and is only a 2-hour-drive from the Causeway immigration of Singapore. It is a 2 to 3-hour-walk to the summit, depending on one's physical condition. Participants of around 40 pax joined the climb, not to mention the donors who did not join the climb but did participate by extending their financial support. 

Though the first batch of the group encountered a departure delay from Singapore as the bus did not make it on time, the climbers were able to reach the summit before dusk via Lukut trail. Some of them were new climbers and were thrilled by the experience of trekking under the rain and the terrifying “limatik” encounter. The excitement was even more intensified by the thought of doing it with the people who were very experienced in climbing mountains.

The socials started at around 10 pm. It was facilitated by Toots and Dek. KALASAG was recognized as the best group as they had been very cooperative and very helpful. Three lucky names were drawn and were given consolation prizes. Congrats to the winners Gladys, Tere and Chris. We embraced the night with food and drinks and laughter that will always be remembered.

The next day, after making sure the campsite had been cleared, climbers started to descend. It was a traverse, so the descent started with 20m steep rock formation before the rolling trail. It was very fun and exciting. The final destination was at Kota Tinggi falls - famous for waterfall at Lombong area, where we all freshened up and waited for our bus which would bring us back to Singapore. At 5pm, all of us were back in Singapore, safe and happy.

It was a fun climb. Most of us had been inflicted by limatik bites and insect bites, plus unimaginable muscle pain the day after, but it felt so good to know that we did it for a cause and we did it from our hearts.

On June 7, 2013, an amount of 90,290 php,  was transferred to the account of Emy’s husband. Good job everyone and thank you so much to all the supporters.

 To EMY, get well soon and we will  all climb together!!

Nov 2, 2010

Si Ninong Jay

If there's someone in my life whom, I have spent half of my life with, I would say it's Jay. We were classmates, take note, "classmates" not just schoolmates from Day Care center up to 4th year of High School. We were never separated. When we went to college, we shared the same house for 2 or 3 more years, imagine that!

And so when yuan came I decided to make him "ninong", he might not be aware of it but even before I already said that he will be the ninong of my first born, though I'm pretty sure that when he'll have a baby of his own it would be rain in the list and not m
e. fine...nevermind :D

Anyhoo, i was browsing my old albums when I came across the photos of yuan and jay 4 or 5 years ago. They look so good together. Parang magkapatid, though yuan approached me one day with an innocent gesture: "parang nakakatakot si ninong jay, kasi ang lalaki ng ngipin nya."

Thank you ninong jay for loving our yuan. We miss you so much and hopefully we would be able to bond again and spend more time time together.

Aug 10, 2010

The City of Siem Reap

Cambodia is the 5th Asian country I've visited and the fourth in South East Asia. The main purpose of the visit was to get away from Singapore during the long weekend for the celebration of the country's 45th birthday and of course to capture the scenery of the famous Angkor Wat.

We took Airasia flight from Kuala Lumpur Malaysia to Siem Reap in the morning of August 7th. It was a 2 hour trip. On our way to the hotel, I began to observe the people and the city; people talk like thais, Cambodia is a third-world country, and the place is much more like a common province in the Philippines. Angkor Wat might be the only reason why someone would spend dollars for a 3rd world country. That was my first impression.

We stayed in Hotel Lin Ratanak, 3star hotel situated 20 minutes away from the airport. After we secured our room and settled our things, we began touring the city of Siem Reap. First stop is the Tonlé Sap ("Tonlé" meaning "Large Fresh Water River," but more commonly translated as "Great Lake"). The floating village became an attraction for tourist, not really worth the prize of $12. The village is a reflection of how poor Cambodia is, I hate how children would swim near our boat and ask for dollars, some women use their babies to gain sympathy and some aged 7-10 hold a snake with them just to attract tourists' attention. It was for me a desperate measure.

We then headed to "the killing fields" where a collection of skulls from the war are being displayed in a giant glass container, which according to my research are the skulls of the warriors during the war with Siam, former name of Thailand. It was a short stop over, just fewphotos and a visit to a small shop then we hopped in our vans and proceeded to Angkor Wat to buy our visa for the next day. We had a buffet for dinner with a cultural Cambodian dance in the background. After dinner, the night was spent by the ladies shopping at night market while the boys treated themselves for a massage. Did I mention that we were 19?

The Killing Fields

The whole day of the second day was spent inside the Angkor Wat. It was huge, historical and religious. What pissed me thou were those Chinese who were so ignorant because they disrespected the temple by taking photos and touching the boobs of those carvings at the walls. Idiots! Pictures below will best describe Angkor Wat.

The people. The people of Cambodia are just like some Filipinos. They tend to take advantage of the tourist as much as possible. Take for example a flute which would be offered initially for a dollar each, then they would insist and would give it to you for 2 for a dollar and the bargaining would never end until they offer it for 5 for a dollar. The most stupid mistake a tourist can do is to buy a thing without haggling and once you buy something, vendors would flock around you. Cambodians are mixture of Malay and Chinese, most of them look like a typical Vietnamese. They speak so soft and these people also smile a lot.

The food. Cambodian food is very Asian. Not so much difference from the Philippines. One of the best that I've tried was their green mango and how they did the salt and spicy thingy which came with the mango. I also like the "amok" dish. A fish, or chicken or pork cooked with coconut milk and presented and served at a coconut shell. They are not good in cooking sweets and desserts.

Siem Reap might be famous to tourist but it's NOT one of those places that I would say " I’ll definitely go back" - bads ordenes

Jul 25, 2010

Once A Jolly Hangman

the controversial book

the author, Alan Shadrake

the story (copied from

SHADRAKE: I’d do it all again

British Weekly Exclusive

SINGAPORE: Former British Weekly writer Alan Shadrake, who is facing
two years in jail for penning an expose of the Singapore justice system, was in defiant mood this week when we contacted him for an exclusive interview.

“I’d write that book again,” Alan told us on Thursday, after undergoing a ten-hour grilling from the city state’s Criminal Investigation Department into his book:Once a Jolly Hangman, Singapore Justice in the Dock

“I don’t believe in backing down from bullies,” Shadrake said, who is best known to BW readers as the author of the long-running and controversial column Shooting From The Lip.

“Everything I wrote (in the book) was true and when I go to court I intend to give as good as I get.”

The 75-year-old author was granted bail on Monday after 24 hours in jail following the high-profile launch of the new book. He could face two years in jail for defamation because of his allegations of institutionalised injustice in the Singapore’s legal system – specifically its application of the death penalty, which many international observers consider to be merciless and arbritary.

The country’s Attorney-General has now served Shadrake with a contempt of court order, saying that the book impugns the impartiality, integrity and independence of the judiciary.

Shadrake told reporters he was freed after a local activist posted bail of 10,000 Singapore dollars ($7,240) for him.

“I’m feeling pretty shaken at the moment,” said Shadrake, whose case is to be heard in court on July 30.

His passport has been impounded to prevent him from leaving Singapore until the case is resolved.

Shadrake revealed that he hade made the decision to go back to Singapore for the book’s launch after extensive consultation with famed legal scholar Francis Seow – himself a former Singapore Solicitor-General and now perhaps the country’s most famous dissident and opponent of Prime Minister Lee Kwan Yew. Mr. Seow is now an American citizen and a visiting fellow at Harvard Law School.

“The legal advice I received was that provided I had extensive evidence to back up the claims I make in the book – which I do – then the CID here would have a very hard time making anything stick,” said Shadrake.

“Although they are giving me a very gruelling time here – every day I am interrogated for eight to ten hours, often covering the same ground - I would write the book again in a heartbeat. I am not allowed to have an attorney to be present when I am questioned. But I’m not going to be cowed. I’m looking forward to my day in court.

“I feel I am making history with this book. I have had messages of support from all over the world. I have the British government, Amnesty International and the Committee to Protect Journalists on my side and I’m hopeful I will prevail.

“Everything I have written is true. There is a wave of change coming in this country. It’s time for Lee Kwan Yew to stop running Singapore like his own private fiefdom.”

In his book, Shadrake examines the history of the death penalty in Singapore and exposes its unequal and frequently merciless aplication. The books alleges that foreigners and the wealthy are less likely to receive the death penalty. Perhaps most embarrassingly for the Singapore authorities, Shadrake scoops an interview with Singapore’s former chief executioner, Darshan Singh. In an article Shadrake wrote for The Australian newspaper in 2005 – but which has since been removed from its website – Singh is “credited with being the only executioner in the world to single-handedly hang 18 men in one day – three at a time”.

Amnesty International earlier urged Singapore’s government to immediately release the elderly author.

“Singapore uses criminal defamation laws to silence critics of government policies,” Donna Guest, Amnesty’s Asia Pacific Deputy Director, said in London.

“The Singapore government should release Shadrake at once.”

She added: “If Singapore aspires to be a global media city, it needs to respect global human rights standards for freedom of expression… Singapore should get rid of both its criminal defamation laws and the death penalty.”

Amnesty International said last year that Singapore was “estimated to have one of the highest per capita execution rates in the world.”

It said Singapore had executed at least 420 people since 1991, adding that the number was probably higher as “not all sentences and executions are reported publicly”. Singapore, which has one of the lowest crime rates in the world among its five million population, has retained the death penalty since its days as a British colony. Convicts are still executed by hanging.

Shadrake has enjoyed a rich and varied career in journalism, dating back to his days as a Fleet Street correspondent in West Berlin in the 1960s, where he numbered among his drinking buddies two giants of postwar American journalism, Harry Reasoner and Dan Schorr. His experiences in the spy-infested, cloak-and-dagger world of Berlin at the height of the Cold War gave him a lifelong taste for intrigue which served him well as he subsequently became a master of the Fleet Street scoop. In the 1970s he turned to writing books, scoring a spectacular success in writing the first authorized biography of Bruce Lee in cooperation with the martial art legend’s wife, Lynda.

He moved to Los Angeles in the mid-1980s and quickly became a fixture at Ye Olde King’s Head pub in Santa Monica and various karaoke bars in West LA, where his rendition of “Summertime” was often in great demand. He continued to write for US and UK publications including the Daily Mail, The Daily Express, The Mirror, the Globe and the National Inquirer.

Shadrake moved to Las Vegas in 1998, where he specialized in local showbusiness stories before moving on to Singapore after falling in love with a local woman who he met on a BW press junket. For the last couple of years he has divided his time between Singapore and Indonesia.